I am choosing not to blog for a while, or at least not as often as I have in the past, as I have other commitments that require my attention.

Thank you for all the support and comments I have received from various people, since I started this website, I appreciate it.

I will continue to support anyone that is interested in Vendrome, either as a customer or a consultant.

Wishing you a fantastic sex life!

Regards,

Simone

Don’t let the chill in the air leave you cold for each other! Fight frostiness with hot and sexy ideas for winter romance.

• Lather Up

While your sweetie is in the shower preparing for your date, throw a few towels in the dryer so when his toes hit the cold bathroom floor he’ll have something nice and warm.

•  Walking in a Winter Wonderland

Take a day trip to the nearest big city to admire the winter stillness. Hold hands, drink hot chocolate, and snuggle together to stay warm!

• The Winner Takes It All (Literally)

Make the stakes a little more interesting on game night. You know what I mean……strip chess anyone?

•  Underneath the Mistletoe

Didn’t you find yourselves under the mistletoe on Christmas? There’s no need to relegate the merry kissing bush to holiday decor. Keep a sprig around all winter long for spontaneous kissing sprees!

•  Toast Yourselves!

Who says Champagne is only for New Year’s Eve and your anniversary? On date night, pour champagne in your belly buttons and take turns sucking it out. Get drunk on love!

•  Get Active

Chill out at the ice-skating rink. Grab your jacket and a good pair of socks and warm each other up on the ice. Don’t forget to couple skate!

•  Breakfast in Bed

My favorite!!! Keep date night going into the next morning. Make it easier to slip into the swing of things by waking your honey with a warm cup of coffee or tea.

Simone

 Adapted from Redbook

Research proves that 60 per cent of women fake an orgasm during intercourse.  This can be due to a number of reasons. One of the reasons could be being of scared of having sex. If you are, you are not the only one.

Anyone can fear sex. This does not only affect women, this affects many men too (as against the popular misconception).  But what are the different kinds of sex-related phobias that people have? Check it out:

Erotophobia – fear of everything related to sex
Coitophobia – fear of sexual intercourse
Anuptaphobia – fear of staying single
Heterophobia or sexophobia - fear of the opposite sex. This, coupled with Anuptaphobia could actually have disastrous effects.
Gymnophobia – fear of nudity
Menophobia – fear of menstruation (nothing irrational about this fear once you think of it).
Parthenophobia – fear of virgins and young girls (men can fear sex too!)
Oneirogmophobia – fear of wet dreams
Eurotophobia or kolopophobia – fear of female sex organs
Haptophobia – fear of being touched
Ithyphallophobia – fear of erections
Medomalacuphobia – fear of going limp and losing erections
Tocophobia – fear of pregnancy and childbirth
Scopophobia – fear of being looked at

Spot your phobia and get a cure for it. You are responsible for your sex life. If you don’t want to help yourself, don’t expect your partner to be able to do it for you.

Simone

Adapted from the article “Why some women fake orgasms” from The Times of India

Great hints to spoil your partner! Check out my previous blogs for part 1 and 2.

Cooling down can be very hot.
Your temperature rises slightly when you’re aroused, so anything cool will be a pleasurable jolt to your senses. Point a fan in your direction so that while your between his legs, you’re feeling both warm from your mouth and a cool breeze. The combo is unexpected, and anything surprising can send him over the edge.

A vice-grip can be nice.
The ridge of his penis—where the tip meets the shaft—is very sensitive to touch. Cover your teeth with your lips, and place them around that ridge like a vice. Apply firm pressure—like how you squeeze fruit—then release and repeat. This movement perks up the nerves there and then lets them relax, which can feel really good.

Sometimes thinking dirty is a bad idea.
The primary reason women give sex therapists for not wanting their guy down there is they worry they smell. Your guy probably loves your aroma, but you can eliminate that concern by taking a quick half-shower before a date. You will feel much fresher and won’t worry about a funky fragrance.

He wants to pretend he’s a bike seat.
You don’t have to be on your back when you’re on the receiving end of oral. Have him lie down, and then put your privates over his mouth. This gives you some control over the pace and motion, making it easier for you to orgasm. And experts tell us it can be erotic for a man to have your coochie that up close and personal.

There’s a digital version of oral.
Here’s a unique way to give his frenulum—the tiny bump on the underside of his penis where the shaft meets the tip—some special attention: Place the tip of your finger on it, then take his shaft (along with your finger) into your mouth. As you move your mouth up and down, rub your finger over the F-spot.

Feast his eyes.
You probably already know that guys are extremely visual, but it can be hard for him to get a decent view while you’re down there lavishing his penis with love. Place a standing mirror next to you so he can check you out. The combo of feeling and seeing you will blow (pun intended) his mind.

Simone

Start this year with the Passion Propeller position of the week. Talk about taking this New Year to new heights!

Erotic Instructions:

The man lies on top of the woman, entering her in traditional missionary style, but then — yowza! — he starts doing a 360-degree spin, all the while keeping his penis deep inside of her. As he’s rotating and thrusting, she can help guide him around her body like a propeller would spin around the top of a helicopter. Make sure that he lift his legs when they swing around over her head. If this is challenging and he slips out, he should stop thrusting and try again.

Why You’ll Love It:

Once he makes the 360-degree jaw-dropping journey, you will both will feel like sexual dynamos and may even keep on spinning for rounds two, three, and four! 

Ladies, this randy ring around your rosie can make staying in sync tricky. If during his twisty travels you encounter some awkward private part match-up moments and it feels like he might just slip out, try placing a pillow under your butt to raise your pelvis a bit for easier access.

Simone

Adapted from Cosmo

It is time to take stock of the previous year and look forward to the next. Do you make resolutions? How about sexual ones?

Have you taken the time to assess where you spend your time and energy? Is it becoming a better lover? Do you spend more time watching sports or a soap?

Consider a resolution to become an erotic massage expert. Ask your partner if they would consider it, too. It is a beautiful goal you can work together and have fun exploring. Take turns buying the candles, different massage oils, and toys if you both desire. There are many good books on this subject, but you are a visual type of person, DVD’s may be your choice. The great things about the DVD’s is that you can see the technique along with the verbal instruction.

Have fun getting to know your partner’s body better along with your own. Enjoy the physical pleasure of your body, long before you have an orgasm.

The memories of how you made your lover feel may last a lifetime.

Simone

These quick, no-sweat strategies will smooth out the bumps, bring the sexy back, and, ultimately, make your love last.

It turns out that love is in the details: “We know from marriage and divorce research that it’s the everyday things — having fun, connecting, and showing you care — that make or break a marriage,” says Debra Castaldo, Ph.D., author of Gifts of Love. We heard the same from other experts, real couples, and even one of America’s greatest living poets. The following are excerpts from the 5 minute marriage makeovers from MSN lifestyle. 

This debate that has gone on for a long time…boxers, briefs, commando?

Today we will focus on the boxers. Here is a list of the pros and cons of wearing boxers:

Every one loves great sex. Since we don’t come with manuals, and every body is different, here are some hints for better oral sex.

• If you’re into it, your partner will be too.

One thing that turns anyone on is enthusiasm. In fact, lots of men have a hard time fully enjoying themselves because they worry that their partner hates being down there. Ladies, let him know you like it by softly moaning as you take him into your mouth. Hygiene is extremely important, especially if your partner is hesitant about oral sex. This is a great reason to use a shower for foreplay.

• Your hands can take it to the next level.

 One sex poll found that guys say their favorite thing is when a woman uses her mouth and hands on their package at the same time. Stack one hand on top of the other on his shaft, and gently twist in opposite directions. At the same time, flick your tongue—like a snake—over the tip.

• Are you missing a spot?

Ladies, here’s a secret erogenous zone that you should definitely hit while you’re down there: Trail your tongue down his shaft to the area between his testicles and the base. Purse your lips together, and lightly suck on the patch of skin. It’s packed with nerve endings, so any attention you give it will feel heavenly.

• Multitasking leads to more Os for you.

Experts say that being stimulated in multiple areas will help a woman reach climax more quickly. So while his tongue is at work, he can play with her nipples. In the beginning, he should softly stroke her tips, but as she get closer to orgasm, he can squeeze. He can also stimulate your G-spot with his fingers while working her clitoris with his mouth.

• The amazing 69

Lie side-by-side, with your head near his penis. As you both lick, let your hands massage each other’s booties—there are large muscles there, so rubbing them will make for an even greater release. You may even want to explore the anal area in a variety ways….this can be very stimulating for both sexes.

Simone

Shatter those myths, and get to know the facts!

Myths 1-5 are listed in a earlier blog. 

Myth #6

• Viagra vincit omnia

That’s Latin for ‘Viagra conquers all’, the idea that there is a silver bullet solution for any sexual woe. The belief that medication of any sort is the only cure for erectile dysfunction is very wide of the mark. There are many avenues to approach this issue. If this affects you, or someone you love, please check with your doctor to make sure it more than just aging.

Although, if this does affect you and you would like a non-prescription alternative to Viagra, I would recommend Vendrome.  It is all natural, and has a daily component to enhance prostate health. It is THE Sexual Wellness System for Men. Just click on the right on this website, to receive more information and a free sample.

Myth #7

• Oysters work

Maybe for other oysters, but while certain foods may put you both in the mood there is little, if any, evidence that aphrodisiacs actually work. Not these famous bivalve molluscs or a tiger’s rude bits, and certainly not dark chocolate on top of good old-fashioned strawberries and cream.

That said certain ingredients (not the dried tiger, I’m thinking) can help establish the right atmosphere and set the scene. The right one might even trigger the hoped-for desire by arousing an erotic memory but, as with sex generally, it all comes down to personal preferences. If you want an animal aphrodisiac, try a lambskin rug!  

Myth #8

• Oral sex is safe sex

Safer, maybe, but even that is open to question. Part of the confusion is that for some people – even some quite famous presidential sort of people – not having full sex means not having sex at all. In reality, though, it is less about definition and more about exchanging bodily fluids.

Exchange fluids and there is always the possibility of something untoward happening. Like any other sexual activity, oral sex – whichever way round you do it – carries a risk of transmitting a number of sexually transmitted diseases and even HIV. Not the highest risk, for sure, but a risk nonetheless.

Myth #9

• PE  is for beginners only

If by PE you mean premature ejaculation then it is a popular misconception that it only affects the young and inexperienced. Certainly it does affect them, quite a lot of them, when they first reach sexual maturity. But like depression it is much more prevalent, with around 30 per cent experiencing at some time in their lives.

Some time can mean any time, and often it is no big deal although you probably will not feel like that if it happens to you. The good news is that it is only rarely traced back to an underlying physical or medical problem, and most victims suffer only temporarily.

I have written previous blogs with exercises and techniques to help with this.

Myth #10

• Fantasizing about someone is like cheating

Not for a moment is it to be supposed that your partner will be overjoyed to learn that when you are in bed together your mind occasionally wanders over to where, say, Cheryl Cole or Eva Mendes is asking if she can help at all.

But the chances are that your partner does it too, and fantasizing about someone else is by no means always bad. If you are both committed to the relationship, and the object of your fantasy is an A-lister rather than, say, your friend’s sister, it is probably fine – though best kept to yourself.

There is nothing wrong with window shopping and taking your appetite home!

Simone

Adapted from MSN